Just FYI: grounding, or the lack of it, had nothing to do with why you couldn't pull in the OTA signals. Because the problem that you're having is so common for HD-Tivo customers, for the benefit of everyone else, I'm going to break down your problem...
1. Your dish 921 dvr had good OTA signal.
2. You were installing the HD Tivo at the same outlets and had the same antenna hooked up as before.
3. Replacing the Tivo did not help. The replacement box had the same issue.
4. (IMPORTANT!! ---->) You noticed the signal would go way up when you pulled the coax out of the tivo.
5. With only the middle part of the coax (presumably the copper conductor with everything else stripped back) hooked into the antenna input you got pretty good signal.
6. Everything else you did after this (splitter, grounding to the torx lug) made the signal a little better.
The antenna input for the HD Tivo is very, very sensitive. I'm not sure why they engineered it like this- one guess is that because of the way they internally split the signal to the tuners, there is an internal amplifier that boosts the signal before or after that split. The effect this has is that if your signal strength is reasonably high (read good), there is an excellent chance that the signal overdrives the tuners and you'll get nothing, a few channels (which are almost always the weaker strength ones that are located in your respective markets) or wildly fluctuating signals on all channels that tend to resemble multipath at first, but get better when the attenna is aimed in ways that would usually make multipath
worse.
Again, this is such a common issue that I wish we could sticky this; what you need is an attenuator to cool the signal down. A tech called me 2 weeks ago about an HD Tivo installed with an E-A 2-bay UHF antenna at a range of 4.7-4.8 miles to the broadcast towers. I asked him if he counseled the customer that he needed an attenuator? The tech replied that he already had a -6db one and that it still did not work. I asked him to hook up a pair of rabbit ears and to check what the signal strength did then. He said it came right in at 85-91%. I advised him that the customer would need a
2nd -6db attenuator. I called customer the next day and he said everything worked just fine since he purchased a second attenuator.
Anecdotally, I've heard from and talked to customer who experienced this issue from as far as 18 miles from broadcast towers!
Find an old set of rabbit ears, hook it up and youll be able to see if you need an attenuator.