Note to OP - Good english and some rational logic and structure will serve you much better than an unbridled stream of consciousness
I only took one pass at your post and will not attempt another, but I think I get your frustration. While I absolutely love the technology, programming and even the value with my DirecTV install so far; I will be the first to admit that both Direct and Dish are FAR FAR FAR from the most honest of companies.
That said I do not think that either vendor outright lies but I do think they routinely "sell" you. Additionally, dealing with both vendors seems to have a very hit or miss probability in terms of talking with someone who has a clue. You tend to get a lot of chuckleheads who are reading from a script and literally know FAR LESS than the average customer who reads this site. 1 hour of internet research puts you well ahead of 75% of either companies customer service staff.
My point here is that if you have the patience and research, the END result experience can be good but only if you are willing to deal with some pitfalls along the way. I would also add that DTV, Dish, Comcast. ATT, VZ, TWC et al are all notoriously bad at the "customer experience"... on par with most cell companies.
Compare this to other companies like Epson or American Express and it is very easy to see how bad it is... to quote Chuck Barkley... Terrabull just Terrabull!